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Bastard part II

Monday, March 17, 2008

Thank you for your word of advice, Irene. However, we should listen to both
sides of the story before any judgment is heard.

i heard from Hakim that both of you had a talk last night and i’m glad
things work it out and you decided to delete that post of yours.

To Chuan Ting:Actually i dun wanna settle it on the blog. i prefer to
meet you face to face, but after reading this entry, you can arrange a meeting
if you wan. it’s easier this way rather than the childish method. ok, do you
remember we talked on the phone last week? you were telling me how sorry you
were and that you know it was your fault that Hakim left you. and then i ask you
a question, are you willing to give in to Hakim? and you kept quiet. then after
a while you said you love him very much. i told you relationship is not about
taking. you need to give in too, if not this relationship will be a one man show
and ya, it will not lasts. i talked to you nicely on the phone. you ask me do
whatever thing you said and i did. but that night we met, you insulted me. i did
not blame you cause like what i said on the phone, i understand your plight.
i’ve been thru it b4 and i know. i did not insult you back i walk off. but ya,
the next day we met again, you apologised and i told you it’s ok i didnt blame
you. Chuan Ting, you should know Hakim well enough. if he’s a bastard, would he
still be there for you and promise to walk through this with you until you find
someone or when you are ready to stand alone?? i tell you, it’s rare to find
someone like that. you know very well how nice Hakim treats you, if not you
wouldnt hold on to this relationship at all.. He has done so many things for
you. have you forgotten them? you chose friends over him sometimes but he chose
you over friends always. He send you to work, had lunch with you, and then fetch
you from work. which guy would go to the distance for a girl if this love is
fake? you been clinging on to him since the day you told him you wanna break.
have you ever thought carefully before deciding if you really wanna break?
because you see, all the recent break ups is you who wanna break not him. and if
it’s over good reason we can understand but not over hypothetical questions or
assumptions. like what you told me, you know it’s your fault but you cant let
go. honestly, if he treats you bad, you can let go easily. actually you know it
yourself how much Hakim did for you. to let a relationship lasts longer, we shld
not cling on the person’s past. what’s past let it pass. what’s done cannot be
undone. we shld live each day to the fullest. Chuan Ting, honestly, you will
find a better guy. it just takes time. time is the best healer. all the best to
you!
March 16, 2008Categories: Uncategorized
. . Author: snowdalicia

Her blog entry? So lol-able. Faking as someone's girlfriend is pathetic. Makes me wonder why. And no - I would not take down my blog entry cos this is my blog and I am not obliged to take down something I firmly believe in. Thus, I decided to leave a comment and it erupted to this.

Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 5:07 am

Okay. it’s fine that you deleted my previous comment but I read your post again which is updated again when I pressed the send comment button.

Do you seriously think you’re not at fault at all? Conscience my dear. Conscience. Karma will come in both ways. :]

“and then i ask you a question, are you willing to give in to Hakim? and you kept quiet.”.. my dear, sometimes just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want her to be, doesn’t mean that that someone doesn’t love him with all she does.

Please, take that in mind. Whatever whatever, being a liar(You lying about being his girlfriend) is just wrong. Just admit your mistake already and stop embarrassing yourself in front of all my readers.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:19 am

i did not see your previous comment. Why not you ask Chuan Ting why she lie about distorting the fact and make it sound as though it was Hakim fault when she told me she know it was her fault? i apologise to Chuan Ting for making it up that i was Hakim gilrfriend. at least you know i was lying cause you know Hakim well enough that he wasnt a bastard after all. before you can judge me as to why i lie, pls ask yourself why must i do that? anyway, this childish act shld nt be carried on. pls ask Chuan Ting out. we’ll meet and talk. BTW, this matter concerns only chuan ting me and Hakim. even the parties involved did not say anything.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:24 am

you claim you were helping Chuan Ting. then why do you let her hurt herself again and again by not stopping her from clinging on to Hakim? A good friend shldnt just comment and yt do nothing. actions must be done with words. i rather you use the time to talk to her and persuade her.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:29 am

yeah karma will come so do you think by judging others is right? before you wanna make a comment, think smart and make sure you do not contradict yourself.

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Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 5:33 am

Hello girl, get your facts right.

If you read my post very very carefully, you will notice it was HAKIM who come and find her after she did not want to contact him at all. WHY?

Makes me angry man. I was there and I don’t want them to talk at all. But then Hakim wholeheartedly wanted to have a private talk with her. She wasn’t the one who initiated the meet up. She doesn’t even want to meet up and Hakim has to call through me to get to her. What for?

Perhaps Chuanting has been contacting him these few days cos YOU made her feel that Hakim is a bastard just by going for other girl a few days after the breakup. I feel that way too - and I am convinced that it is YOUR fault instead.
Prove me that I am wrong and I will back off. You can’t right?

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:41 am

Chuan Ting and me talked last week and she know that it’s definitely not a third party that causes all this but her action. u can ask her herself. since a break has already initiated, and a final break this time, she has no rights to interfere Hakim’s private life. even if Hakim were to have a girlfriend, it will be deem as Chuan Ting being the 3rd party as their break up is totally based on Chuan Ting action. you can ask her that cause she herself told me that last week.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:45 am

So right now for the good of Chuan Ting, you shld ask Chuan Ting to forget about him and stop contacting Hakim. Have a clean break up. and i make sure Hakim will do likewise.

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Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 5:49 am

“since a break has already initiated, and a final break this time, she has no rights to interfere Hakim’s private life. even if Hakim were to have a girlfriend, it will be deem as Chuan Ting being the 3rd party as their break up is totally based on Chuan Ting action. you can ask her that cause she herself told me that last week.”

Hello, you’re not answering my question babe. I am asking why Hakim tries to persuade her again even after the break up (which you seem clueless about).
And I do not understand your sentence structure, probably due to your lackof of english about even if Hakim were to have a girlfriend, it will be deem as Chuan Ting being the 3rd party as their break up is totally based on Chuan Ting action??????

???? What are you rambling about?

You mean Chuanting causing the breakup of the new girlfriend? I am amazed by your mindset since the question of the new girlfriend is not even founded.

I do not question about the reason for the breakup (it is of between them) but that, I feel that people should not be able to move on so fast (comeon, we are talking about a few days only and this concerns me cos she is my friend) to other girls just after a breakup. So in this way, he is a bastard.
Get my point? ditto.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:50 am

How can there be faults when one had already break up and severe ties with another? and wadever Hakim does outside his private life is not of Chuan Ting concern as he does not have to account to her for everything that happen to his private life as we all know the definition of a break up. So Chuan Ting shldnt even have contact Hakim or beg for him to come back as she was the one who initiate a break up unless she doesnt know the definition of it, then too bad, i have nth to say.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:57 am

well well well. perhaps your eng is not of depth to understand my simplify english. you dont get my point? i shall put it to SIMPLE eng then. Because Chuan Ting break with Hakim, so therefore Hakim has the right to date other girls am i right? Because Hakim is no longer at liability nor accountable to Chuan Ting for his actions. And if Hakim were to find a new girlfriend, and if Chuan Ting were to come into the pic, it’s obvious Chuan Ting is the third party because they had alr broken up. Imagine if you and ur ex had alr broken up, u’re dating ur current bf, and if your ex appears again, do you see him as a 3rd party or see ur current bf as a third party? yeah depends on situation. this situation is simple, Hakim broke up with Chuan Ting is because he could not stand her unreasonable behaviour not because of any other girls. Get it? it’s simple. even my younger bro can understand.

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Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 5:58 am

LOL, seems like you’re a tough nut to crack.

And I am like playing piano to a cow. Just forget it. You do not understand that it is hurting that your ex just gets attached to other girls (regardless of fabricated tales or whatsoever) in just a matter of days even if it doesn’t concern her anymore. :]

And definitely, chuanting will have no more relations to Hakim again. If she does, I will probably cook her in curry cos obviously, Hakim isn’t all that good that you imagine him to be - I do not want to expose what he did with other girls during their relationship. You can polly question him yourself.

This shall be my last comment since this arguement is getting nowhere and I am still RIGHT about this.

p.s I am actually glad that they broke up.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 5:58 am

dude, as to your quest in why Hakim wanna talk to her is because he wanna a clean break up because he knows Chuan Ting well enough that she will call him and beg for him. And he doesnt want that to happen.

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Comment by snowdalicia on March 17, 2008 6:00 am

it’s hurting if Hakim were to break with Chuan Ting. but you must get your facts right. It’s Chuan Ting who wanna break with Hakim. so Hakim has the right. do you agree?

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Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 6:03 am

LOL, you meant what I quoted in my blog ” You think it’s easy for me to let go? You think I can just go to any girls after we just broke up? My heart is still with you, you know?” as wanting a clean break? It’s more like he wants her back.

You mean if say I break up with my boyfriend, I am at fault and he can just get another girl in a few days? It is acceptable for some weird people like YOU who obviously don’t care less but it is wrong to normal people like us. :]

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Comment by Irene on March 17, 2008 6:04 am

oops and I exceeded my last comment cos I couldn’t stand how you reply on baseless grounds.

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And with that, I puked blood and had to be sent to hospital for that. Some people just don't get it.

-Sign Off @ 2:35 PM :)